When you use the word ‘lubricant’ in a sexual manner, people are quick to think of only older women experiencing vaginal dryness due to menopause. That is so wrong! There also seems to be an incorrect assumption that younger women do not need to use lubrication, and if they do, they have a problem.
The myth that lubricants are only needed for “fixing” a sexual problem needs to be dispelled. Many women, young or old, suffer from vaginal dryness at some time during their life but are too embarrassed to discuss the problem or seek help. There are a number of issues responsible for vaginal dryness, they include;
● Stress, anxiety and relationship issues
● Hormonal changes due to contraception, pregnancy, breastfeeding and menstruation
● Medical conditions such as diabetes, side effects of chemotherapy, full hysterectomy or immune disorders
● Medications – contraceptive pill, anti-depressants and allergy medications
● Chemical products – washing powders, harsh soaps, feminine sprays or douches and perfumed toilet roll
● Lack of foreplay – women need more stimulation than men do.
In a 2013 study of 2,451 women aged between 18-68 found that overall, women felt positive about lubricants, preferring sex to feel more wet than not wet. 9 out of 10 women felt that sex was more comfortable, satisfying, pleasurable and simply better when using lubrication.
Older men also face challenges in the form of erection and arousal problems. Requiring longer genital arousal to gain erections and to be turned on, the use of lubrication can intensify pleasure, helping to make erections last longer.
By using lubricants during foreplay or when you are unable to have penetrative sex, you can increase pleasure and heighten arousal.
You need to consider what type of lubricant you want to use as some lubricants, which create tingling sensations or are dyed, can cause allergic reactions or irritation. There is nothing worse than a burning vagina or penis. So you need to know what works for you. Below are different types you can choose from
Water Based Lubricants
Water based lubricants are the most versatile of all the lubricant types as they are safe for all sexual activities, even for use with silicone sex toys. These are the most popular choice of lubricant, being inexpensive, non-staining and many can be ingested in small amounts during sex. They are also safe to use with latex condoms and diaphragms. Many women prefer Passion natural water based lubricant because it feels more like their natural vaginal lubrication. Water based lubricants also have the added benefit of being incredibly easy to wash off after use, leaving your skin clean, silky smooth and free of any residue. If they do dry out, you can add a little more or reactivate them with water.
Oil Based Lubricants
Oil based lubricants give a great long-lasting, silky smooth experience and being thicker and more creamy in nature, they last longer during sex. They are great to use for masturbation, but be aware that they are not safe to use with latex contraceptives. Both water based and oil based lubricants can be used together during sexual play.
Silicone based lubricants last a very long time, are great for fun in the water and are safe for use with latex condoms. However, they are not suitable to use on silicone sex toys because they will damage the surface. Most silicone based lubricant does not contain preservatives, are dermatologically safe, and moisturising.
Petroleum Based Products
Petroleum based products are best avoided as they are difficult to wash off and may cause irritation by changing the pH of the vagina, which can lead to yeast infections. They also destroy condoms and latex products.
Some lubricants come in tubes and applicators, making it easier to apply the lubricant exactly where you want it to go. A quick tip – squirt a small amount in your hand to warm it up first, rather than applying it directly onto the genitals.
You should always use lube during sex (partnered or solo). Lubricants don’t just help remedy dryness and discomfort; they vastly enhance the sensations of intercourse and other types of sexual play, including self-stimulation.